Proudly Married – Why We Eloped
Posted by Ches on May 20, 2012 in Life, Updates | 19 comments
Eloping in Vegas is tacky. So, we eloped in Sedona.
Best decision I’ve ever made.
A long time ago, I did not want to get married. I did not ever think I’d find someone that I could actually trust enough to marry, after being burned badly, and in ways that are both reprehensible and unspeakable. With my history, it’s no wonder I spread a blanket of distrust upon love.
Marriage is sacred. Marriage is beautiful, intimate, and in my humble opinion, deserves honor. I feel that marriage between a couple is the most intimate and treasured connection. At least it should be. I didn’t think I could have it, until I met Kevin.
This is why we eloped.
We eloped because we could not wait to embrace each other as husband and wife. We were eager. We did not want to express the intimate and passionate vows in front of 200 people. We wanted real vows that we wouldn’t feel awkward saying in front of people we may not know that well. We wanted to take this journey, expressing ourselves without fear, and with full comfort of being forever intimately connected and blessed.
It isn’t necessary to make a big spectacle of egos, playing a waiting game, and having a bunch of people I may or may not know in 10 years to share the aforementioned intimate vows with the man I wish to build my life with. We did it our way, without catering to others. It was truly us.
Besides, 80% of you come for the food and booze.
Do you know how hard it’s been to not tell the world until today? I wanted to make sure our (very spaced apart) family and best friends knew before we announced it. How could I not tell the world I am married to the man that changed my life and perspective on love?
We married exactly the way we wished to; among the red rocks of Sedona. We married right on the creek at red rock crossing.
It rained.
Evidently, that is good luck.
We arrived at the location and hiked down to the river. Our officiant called – late – and asked if we could come back. I immediately got flustered as my soon-to-be husband took the phone and attempted to guide him and the witness. After our failed attempts, our amazing photographer Kym Ventola (seriously, she’s beyond worth the money!) took matters into her own hands and hiked back to get our officiant.
The wind began to pick up, and it sprinkled a little harder. I was full of distress and was quite upset. Then we heard Kym, “KEVIN!!”
She was back! The second our officiant walked up, I was completely disarmed. He set up for our ceremony as yet another gust of wind happened.
This gust of wind was strong enough to knock down an oak branch.
“It’s the Universe speaking” said our officiant.
“Yeah, the Universe is saying, ‘Get on with it’, ” said I.
The wind then died. The sprinkles stopped. The ceremony began and went off without a hitch. It was completed, and we were married. He kissed me a little early, though.
On May 8th, 2010, Kevin Spidel became my boyfriend.
On May 8th, 2012… Kevin became my husband.
Oh yeah, he has some input too. 
And for that, I am thankful, happy, and blessed. To me, building a life with this wonderful man that inspires me – with love – to pursue my passions, dreams, and everything! Even down to my hobbies.
Thank you, Kevin. You have made me believe in love again. Most of all, you’ve made me believe in life.
I love you, husband!
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You two rock! Congrats, and I think it’s great you did it exactly how YOU wanted to.
I am beyond happy and excited for both of you. I wish and pray for many happy years and memories both from your families, friends and the universe. Congrats on your marriage and many blessings!
I could not be happier for the two of you! Cheers to continuing your amazing journey!
I loved this story soooo much… I am so happy that you have found love and that it is treating you royally. You deserve it… God Bless your Union and Blessings on 100 more years together… I may just have to Elope now…
Love it! Congratulations and all the best.
I could not be happier to hear of your union.
May you continue to be an inspiration in each other’s lives.
Bless you both
Yayayayayay!! So so happy for you two! Congrats!
I am happy for both of you beyond words. So happy that you have each other and are a happy beautiful family.
Big, happy, congrats!! You are going to have the best life ever…full of LOVE! <3
AND FLIPFLOPS
Bravo! I’m beyond happy for you both (3). It’s not the ceremony that matters, it’s the meaning and love of the union that does. You are two wonderful people who were lucky to find one another. Many happy years and cheers!! Love to you both!
Conga rats! I hope and pray for many, many happy years together for the two of you.
Congratulations!! I found this post on Kevin’s Facebook page. Sedona is my favorite place on earth, and I can totally see why you chose it for your sacred ceremony. Way to do it your way. And my Navajo husband agrees that wind and rain are a huge blessing.
Hope to meet you soon!
-Pam
Congratulations! I love that you did it privately and in a way that honors your relationship. I’m so happy for you both <3
Congrats from my family to yours. I am so truly happy for you & Kevin, Chess (Izzy Bee too)…My your marraige be blessed with a lifetime of happiness & harmony.
Obviously, there are now words to begin to explain how happy and excited that the entire WOnet Clan is for you both! Love you both…
Mijita, congratulations on your marriage. It is such a blessing that you both have this amazing relationship and I am sure that you and Kevin will continue to grow together. We all wish you nothing but the best! Love, Tio Abel, Xavier and family and Erika and family
Thank you ALL! I don’t have the time to do it all individually, but know that I appreciate all the love you have given us! Thank you
So happy for you both, hope to make your Fall celebration. Hugs!